愛的挑戰40天(The Love Dare)

愛的挑戰40天The Love Dare

   挑戰第一周

第一天  Love Dare - Day 1

Resolve to say nothing negative about your spouse today.

今天，請努力，不說有關配偶的壞話 (負面的評價)，是的，一句也不說。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Eph 4:2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.

以弗所書4：2 凡事謙虛、溫柔、忍耐、用愛心互相寬容

第二天  Love Dare - Day 2

Do at least one unexpected gesture to your spouse as an act of kindness.

至少做一件讓配偶意想不到的事情，來表示你對配偶的好意和善心。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Eph 4:32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

以弗所書4:32 並要以恩慈相待、存憐憫的心、彼此饒恕、正如神在基督裡饒恕了你們一樣

第三天  Love Dare - Day 3

Buy your spouse something that says, 「I was thinking about you today.」

給配偶買點東西，來表述心意說：」我今天想著你！」

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Rom 12:10 Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.

羅馬書12:10愛弟兄、要彼此親熱．恭敬人、要彼此推讓

第四天  Love Dare - Day 4

Contact your spouse sometime during the day and ask how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.

給配偶打個電話或留個言，問個好，看是否能幫他/她做點什麼。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Gen 2:18 The LORD God said, 「It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.」 .

創 世 紀2:18 耶和華神說、那人獨居不好、我要為他造一個配偶幫助他。

第五天  Love Dare - Day 5

Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them.

詢問配偶，讓他/她告訴你三件事，三件你讓配偶在平時生活中感覺不爽的事情。 請千萬留意你不要因此而反擊你的配偶。

** 相關聖經啟示  **

Pro 27:14 If a man loudly blesses his neighbor early in the morning, it will be taken as a curse.

箴言27:14 清晨起來、大聲給朋友祝福的、就算是咒詛他.

第六天  Love Dare - Day 6

Choose to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation.

請選擇用友愛的方式，而不是用怒火來應對婚姻中的礁石。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Pro 16:32 Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city.

箴言16:32 不輕易發怒的、勝過勇士．治服己心的、強如取城

第七天  Love Dare - Day 7

On a sheet of paper, write out positive things about your spouse. At some point during the day, pick a positive attribute from the list and thank your spouse for having the characteristic.

在一頁紙上，羅列出配偶的優點。然後，時不時地從中找出一兩項，來讚揚和感激配偶的這些優良品質。

** 相關聖經啟示  **

1Co 13:7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

歌林多前書13:7 凡事包容．凡事相信．凡事盼望．凡事忍耐

挑戰第二周

第八天  Love Dare - Day 8

Share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.

告訴你的配偶，你為他/她最近引以為豪的成就，感到由衷的快樂和喜悅。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Son 8:6 Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame.

雅歌書8:6 求你將我放在你心上如印記、帶在你臂上如戳記．因為愛情如死之堅強．嫉恨如陰間之殘忍．所發的電光、是火焰的電光、是耶和華的烈焰。

第九天  Love Dare - Day 9

Think of a way to greet your spouse today to reflect your love for them, and then do it with a smile and enthusiasm.

今天，想出一招去問候你的配偶，帶著微笑和熱情使出此招，來表達對配偶的愛意。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

1Pe 5:14 Greet one another with a kiss of love. Peace to all of you who are in Christ.

彼得前書5:14 你們要用愛心彼此親嘴問安。願平安歸與你們凡在基督裡的人。

第十天  Love Dare - Day 10

Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse.

今天，為配偶做點非同尋常的事情。

** 相關聖經啟示  **

Rom 5:8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

羅馬書5:8 惟有基督在我們還作罪人的時候為我們死、　神的愛就在此向我們顯明瞭。

第十一天  Love Dare - Day 11

What need does your spouse have that you could meet today?

你的配偶有什麼需求正好是你今天可以滿足他/她的？

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Eph 5:28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

以弗所書5:28 丈夫也當照樣愛妻子、如同愛自己的身子．愛妻子、便是愛自己了。

第十二天  Love Dare - Day 12

Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse.

為了展示愛情，在你和配偶意見分歧的一個方面，心甘情願地選擇妥協和讓步。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Php 2:4-5 Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. and I will suggest you to continue: Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus.

腓利比書 2:4-5各人不要單顧自己的事、也要顧別人的事。你們當以基督耶穌的心為心。

第十三天  Love Dare - Day 13

Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement and resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.

和配偶協商，共同規劃健康友好的條約來解決分歧，在以後的意見不合的時候，努力遵守並執行此條約。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Mar 3:25 If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.

馬可福音3:25 若一家自相分爭、那家就站立不住。

第十四天  Love Dare - Day 14

Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse.

為了和配偶有更多高質量的相處時間，有意放棄一項你自己通常會做的活動。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Ecc 9:9 Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun- all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun.

傳道書 9:9 在你一生虛空的年日、就是神賜你在日光之下虛空的年日、當同你所愛的妻快活度日．因為那是你一生在日光之下勞碌的事上所得的分。

挑戰第三周

第十五天  Love Dare - Day 15

Choose a way to show honor and respect to your spouse that is above your normal routine.

選擇一途，超越尋常的自我，來表達對配偶的敬意和尊重。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

1Pe 3:7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

彼得前書3:7 你們作丈夫的、也要按情理和妻子同住．因他比你軟弱、與你一同承受生命之恩的、所以要敬重他．這樣便叫你們的禱告沒有阻礙。

第十六天  Love Dare - Day 16

Pray for three specific areas where you desire for God to work in your spouse』s life and in your marriage.

祈求上帝改良你配偶生命中和你婚姻生活中的三個方面。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

3Jo 1:2 Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.

約翰三書1:2 親愛的兄弟阿、我願你凡事興盛、身體健壯、正如你的靈魂興盛一樣。

第十七天  Love Dare - Day 17

Determine to guard your mate』s secrets and pray for them.

下定決心，守護你配偶的秘密，並為之禱告。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Pro 17:9 He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.

箴言17:9 遮掩人過的、尋求人愛．屢次挑錯的、離間密友。

第十八天  Love Dare - Day 18

Prepare a special dinner at home and focus this time on getting to know your spouse better.

在家裡為配偶準備一頓特別的晚宴，在共進晚餐的浪漫之際，更深更好地瞭解你的配偶。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Pro 3:13 Blessed is the man who finds wisdom, the man who gains understanding.

箴言3:13 得智慧、得聰明的、這人便為有福。

第十九天  Love Dare - Day 19

Ask God to show you where you stand with him, and ask for the strength and grace to settle your eternal destination.

懇求上帝讓你明白你和他的關係，向他祈求力量和恩惠，來安置你永恆的家。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

1Jo 4:7 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.

約翰一書4:7 親愛的弟兄阿、我們應當彼此相愛．因為愛是從神來的．凡有愛心的、都是由神而生、並且認識神。

第二十天  Love Dare - Day 20

Dare to take God at his word and trust Jesus Christ for salvation.

勇於聽從上帝的話語，並且相信基督耶穌是救主。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Rom 5:6 You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly.

羅馬書5:6因我們還軟弱的時候、基督就按所定的日期為罪人死。

第二十一天  Love Dare - Day 21

Make time to pray and read your bible today.

今天，擠出時間向上帝禱告，並閱讀聖經。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Isa 58:11 The LORD will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail.

以賽 亞 書 58:11 耶和華也必時常引導你、在乾旱之地使你心滿意足、骨頭強壯．你必像澆灌的園子、又像水流不絕的泉源。

    挑戰第四周

第二十二天  Love Dare - Day 22

Choose to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it.

選擇矢志不渝地忠於執守你對配偶的愛情，縱然對方已經對此意興闌珊。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Hos 2:20 I will betroth you in faithfulness, and you will acknowledge the LORD.

何西阿書2:20。也以誠實聘你歸我、你就必認識我耶和華.

第二十三天  Love Dare - Day 23

Remove anything that is hindering your relationship, stealing your affections and turning your heart away from your spouse.

除去所有的」第三者」，這些東西有損健康的夫妻關係，偷竊你對配偶的愛情，奪走你對配偶的愛心。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

1Co 13:5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

歌林多前書13:5 不作害羞的事．不求自己的益處．不輕易發怒．不計算人的惡。

第二十四天  Love Dare - Day 24

Identify every object of lust in your life and remove it.

找出你生命中每一項不良嗜好，並將之拋棄。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

1Jo 2:17 The world and its desires pass away, but the man who does the will of God lives forever.

約翰一書 2:17 這世界、和其上的情慾、都要過去．惟獨遵行神旨意的、是永遠常存

第二十五天  Love Dare - Day 25

If there is anything you haven』t forgiven in your spouse, forgive it today.

如果還有任何事情你還不曾原諒你的配偶，請在今天原諒他/她。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

2Co 2:10 If you forgive anyone, I also forgive him. And what I have forgiven–if there was anything to forgive–I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake,

歌林多後書 2:10 你們赦免誰、我也赦免誰、我若有所赦免的、是在基督面前為你們赦免的。

第二十六天  Love Dare - Day 26

Ask for God』s forgiveness for your areas of wrongdoing, then humble yourself enough to admit them to your spouse.

祈求上帝原諒你所做過的錯事，然後誠懇謙卑地向你的配偶承認錯誤。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Rom 2:1 You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things.

羅馬書2:1 你這論斷人的、無論你是誰、也無可推諉、你在甚麼事上論斷人、就在甚麼事上定自己的罪．因你這論斷人的、自己所行卻和別人一樣。

第二十七天  Love Dare - Day 27

Think of one area where your spouse has told you you』re expecting too much, and tell them you』re sorry for being so hard on them about it.

想一想，你的配偶曾告訴你，你對他期望值太高之處。請在今天為之道歉，對不起，在此事上難為了配偶。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Psa 25:20 Guard my life and rescue me; let me not be put to shame, for I take refuge in you.

詩篇 25:20 求你保護我的性命、搭救我、使我不至羞愧、因為我投靠你。

第二十八天  Love Dare - Day 28

Purpose to do what you can to meet the greatest need in your spouse』s life right now.

今天，傾心傾力，盡己所能來令你配偶人生中最大的願望得以實現。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

1Jo 3:16 This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers.

約翰一書3:16 主為我們捨命、我們從此就知道何為愛．我們也當為弟兄捨命。

挑戰第五周

第二十九天  Love Dare - Day 29

Before you see your spouse again today, pray for them by name and for their needs.

今天，在再見到配偶之前，專門為他們的需要祈禱。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Eph 6:7   Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men.

以弗所書6:7  甘心事奉、好像服事主、不像服事人。

第三十天  Love Dare - Day 30

Ask the Lord to reveal anything in your own heart that is threatening oneness with your spouse and, if appropriate, discuss it openly and seek God for unity.

祈求上帝向你揭示你內心隱藏的有礙夫妻同心的意念，如果可行，和配偶共商，向上帝尋求同一的心。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Joh 17:11 I will remain in the world no longer, but they are still in the world, and I am coming to you. Holy Father, protect them by the power of your name–the name you gave me–so that they may be one as we are one.

約翰福音 17:11 從今以後、我不在世上、他們卻在世上、我往你那裡去。聖父阿、求你因你所賜給我的名保守他們、叫他們合而為一像我們一樣。

第三十一天  Love Dare - Day 31

Commit to God and your spouse to make your marriage the top priority over every other human relationship.

向上帝和配偶承諾，婚姻是你所有人際關係中的首選項，最為優先項.

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Gen 2:24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

創世紀2:24 因此、人要離開父母、與妻子連合、二人成為一體。

第三十二天  Love Dare - Day 32

If at all possible, try to initiate sex with your spouse today(in a way that honors them).

今天，如果可能，主動獻慇勤，向配偶提供尊重體貼的貼身服務。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

1Co 7:3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.

歌林多前書 7:3 丈夫當用合宜之分待妻子、妻子待丈夫也要如此。

第三十三天  Love Dare - Day 33

Tell your spouse that you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, and that you need their perspective and counsel.

告訴配偶你很想讓之參與以後所有事情的決策過程，你需要配偶的觀感和勸告。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Ecc 4:11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?

傳道書 4:11 再者、二人同睡、就都暖和．一人獨睡、怎能暖和呢。

第三十四天  Love Dare - Day 34

Verbally commend your spouse about a recent time when they demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way.

口頭讚揚配偶，有關最近在他/她身上明顯觀察到的基督徒的品格。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

1Co 13:6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

歌林多前書 13:6    (愛) 不喜歡不義．只喜歡真理．

第三十五天  Love Dare - Day 35

Find a Christian marriage mentor. Ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.

找一位基督徒婚姻輔導員。祈求上帝來指導你們的決定，幫助你們分辯是非。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Pro 15:22 Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.

箴言15:22 不先商議、所謀無效．謀士眾多、所謀乃成。

挑戰第六周 (完結篇)

第三十六天  Love Dare - Day 36

Commit to reading the bible every day. If your spouse is open to it, see if they will commit to reading with you.

決心每天閱讀聖經。如果你的配偶願意，看看是否兩人可以共同閱讀。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Psa 119:105 Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path.

詩篇 119:105 你的話是我腳前的燈、是我路上的光。

第三十七天  Love Dare - Day 37

Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together.

詢問你的配偶是否兩人可以開始一同禱告。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Mat 18:19 「Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven.

馬太福音 18:19 我又告訴你們、若是你們中間有兩個人在地上、同心合意的求甚麼事、我在天上的父、必為他們成全。

第三十八天  Love Dare - Day 38

Ask yourself what your spouse would want if it was obtainable, then map out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires.

問問自己，什麼東西是你的配偶渴望得到的，同時又是你能夠給予的？然後，制訂出可行計劃來滿足配偶的其中一些(如果不是全部)的願望。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Psa 37:4 Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.

詩篇37:4 又要以耶和華為樂．他就將你心裡所求的賜給你。

第三十九天  Love Dare - Day 39

Spend time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse. Leave it in a place where you mate will find it.

花點時間為自己的事禱告，然後給配偶寫一封信，表達你對婚姻的承諾和決心。把信放在配偶肯定不會錯過的地方。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

1Co 13:8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

歌林多前書 13:8 愛是永不止息．先知講道之能、終必歸於無有．說方言之能、終必停止、知識也終必歸於無有。

第四十天  Love Dare - Day 40

Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home.

寫出你們結婚誓言的續篇，放於家中，(刻在心裡) 。

** 相關聖經啟示 **

Rut 1:16 But Ruth replied, 「Don』t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God.

路得記 1:16

路得說、不要催我回去不跟隨你、你往那裡去、我也往那裡去, 你在哪裡住宿、我也在那裡住宿, 你的國就是我的國、你的神就是我的神．

註：所有相關聖經啟示的中文翻譯轉自」聖經和合本」

愛的挑戰 (後語)

愛的挑戰 — 40天系列，在情人節的前夕，圓滿劃上句號。然而，我們都明白，愛是沒有止境的。

很是感激，因了這份功課，每天，無論多晚多忙，我都會偷閒至少三五分鐘，看題，答卷，交作業。每天，在這些片刻，我都得以機會，或津津回味二人世界裡曾有過的甜蜜，或反思男女主角的不足，更多的是嚮往和期待，婚姻生活將要呈現的風采和浪漫。

很是感激，當家君的合作和支持。40天來，他對我交出的作業只做正面評論，對隨時可遇的「答老婆問」更是直言不諱。而且，挑戰系列裡的聖經引言全部由他在網上找到中譯本，並整理入文。我能迅捷有效地交齊作業，大家能讀到中文聖經金句，當家君功不可沒。

今天是情人節，非常柔情蜜意的日子。一如40天系列的最後一節所述，讓我們一起，不間斷地用言語，更用行動，續寫我們在結婚那天，所立的約 ……

抄一首詩歌，送與所有已婚的朋友，共勉！

婚姻誓言收集篇

As We Renew Our Vows

Today,

今天

we reaffirm our commitment to each other

as beloveds and partners in marriage.

我們重申我們的誓言為心愛的人及人生夥伴在婚姻相互承諾。

We continue to strive to be sensitive to each other’s needs,

to be open and understanding with each other,

and to share our thoughts, our feelings,

and our experiences with each other.

我們將繼續努力保持敏感彼此的需求，以開放和理解對方，並分享我們的思想，我們的感情， 和我們的經驗，相互交流。

We renew our promise to try always to

bring out the qualities of forgiveness, compassion,

and integrity in our selves and in each other.

我們重申我們的承諾，永遠試圖對待寬恕的素質，同情，和相互無私的自我。

We continue to cherish each other’s uniqueness.

我們將繼續珍惜彼此的獨特之處。

We continue to share in life’s joys and remain steadfast

and comfort each other through life’s sorrows.

我們將繼續分享彼此生活的樂趣和堅定不移情感和互相安慰悲傷通過生活的酸甜苦辣。

•婚姻誓言

As We Renew Our Vows

Today,we reaffirm our commitment to each other

as beloveds and partners in marriage.

We continue to strive to be sensitive to each other’s needs,

to be open and understanding with each other,

and to share our thoughts, our feelings,

and our experiences with each other.

We renew our promise to try always to

bring out the qualities of forgiveness, compassion,

and integrity in our selves and in each other.

We continue to cherish each other’s uniqueness.

We continue to share in life’s joys and remain steadfast

and comfort each other through life’s  sorrows.

婚禮時候所宣讀的誓言

•Jimmy的婚姻誓言:

我, XXX, 願意接受你 OO 為我的妻子, 為我 生命的伴侶, 我一生的真愛
我會珍惜我們的感情, 也會在今天, 明天, 至到永遠都愛著你
我會信任你和尊敬你
我會和你同哭同笑
我會真誠的愛你
不管我們遇到的是好事還是壞事
艱苦的時刻 或是 平順的時候
我都會輿你同在
如今我將我的手給你握著
就像我將我的一生交托給你
願神保守我們

Joanna的婚姻誓言:

我, OO, 願意接受你 XXX 為我的丈夫, 為我 生命的伴侶, 我一生的真愛
我會珍惜我們的感情, 也會在今天, 明天, 至到永遠都愛著你
我會信任你和尊敬你
我會和你同哭同笑
我會真誠的愛你
不管我們遇到的是好事還是壞事
艱苦的時刻 或是 平順的時候
我都會輿你同在
如今我將我的手給你握著
就像我將我的一生交托給你
願神保守我們
我們的婚姻誓言:使我必不離棄你 也必一生跟隨你
輿你同住
你的家人也成為我的家人
你的神也必成為我們的神
至到百年之後 我們也必一同歡聚
願神保守我們也讓我們的感情致死不渝

•.愛的挑戰40天The Love Dare為 美丫雲僕翻譯 in 婚姻圍城

•以上整理於網路資源查找不儘完全.•翻譯也不盡通順,後續者請自行編修•編修文章還是歸上述作者所有

•希望對想了解”愛的挑戰40天”有一點認識•並持續的達成40天之後每一天的挑戰

•於2009/05/10-Bill整理•

2011/0129後續發現 -英文出版-書名:愛的挑戰40天(The Love Dare)中文出版~書名勇敢挑戰真愛